Not Much Changes – Communication
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Not Much Changes – Communication

Communication begins with a cry in infancy. It’s a skillful way to meet our needs and get what we want. It’s interesting to consider that most of our communication (I’m resisting an unresearched percentage here) is based on the same motivation. Give it a thought. You might become altruistic and counter with, “But I want…

Stop Using Rhetoric that Says Emotions Are Bad; Help Culture Resolve and Evolve!
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Stop Using Rhetoric that Says Emotions Are Bad; Help Culture Resolve and Evolve!

©Steve Whiteford 2023 Emotional Intelligence is a popular science that is useful for Leadership Development, Communication in business, and Employee Relations. I’ve taught it from the traits model and the skills strategy which combine very well and deliver strong results. The greatest challenge in promoting self-awareness and the skills of emotional intelligence is that our…

How “Acceptance” Works in Emotional Intelligence
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How “Acceptance” Works in Emotional Intelligence

© Steve Whiteford 2021 “Acceptance” can be a difficult concept. It comes up in spiritual study a lot, and though not always directly presented in Emotional Intelligence, it is essential to the skill. It seems to imply passivity and compliance. “So I’m not supposed to have a response or take action when I don’t like…

Train Self-Awareness First
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Train Self-Awareness First

© Steve Whiteford 2021 Oddly, self-awareness is a quality some people actively resist. It requires the courage to be introspective, to truly consider the meaning of your way of being and its effectiveness. It often comes to us through feedback or criticism from others, but to accept that, you need to trust the person’s perceptions…

Ghosting – The Silent Sibling of Gaslighting
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Ghosting – The Silent Sibling of Gaslighting

© Steve Whiteford 2021 If you are a ghost-er, therefore a ghost – unlike a Halloween ghost you’re probably not frightening at all. Like most ghosts people report having experienced, you’re just an annoying practitioner of “now you see me, now you don’t.” Ghosting is akin to Gaslighting because it’s a denial, a charade. And…

Look up! Look in! Look out! Directly face.
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Look up! Look in! Look out! Directly face.

© Steve Whiteford, 2022 I am a person who believes in and promotes individual well-being, self-awareness, contribution, growth, and achievement of personal fulfillment. Through all of the transition we are experiencing, classic messaging about success and productivity has begun to disturb me. I believe this messaging continues to distract us from our humanity and what…

Reduce Time-Wasting Employee Relations Issues
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Reduce Time-Wasting Employee Relations Issues

Several years working in a small HR department taught me how much valuable time is wasted on Employee Relations issues. At one time or another, every professional in the department was distracted from a project by having to refocus on resolving interpersonal or management-related conflicts in the organization. Now that I’ve expanded my expertise in…

AUTHENTIC SUCCESS
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AUTHENTIC SUCCESS

AUTHENTIC SUCCESS Feel the FEAR and Open Your Heart Anyway © 2016 Steve Whiteford My work with others using Emotional Intelligence and Mindfulness, and certainly my self-work over the years, has led to me focus strongly on the incremental, initial feelings we have throughout the day as the key to finding success through emotional intelligence….

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Get Over It! Six Reasons Leadership/Executive Presence Still Matters

© Steve Whiteford 2015 Search “Executive Presence” on the internet and you will find tons of articles, and resources for training on the topic. Yet, I consistently see opinion articles that dismiss the validity of the discipline.When I read the trashing of what I have experienced to be core skills of communication, leadership and exemplary…

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The Power of Authenticity (EQ-i 2.0) by Steve Whiteford 2014

The Power of Authenticity – In Emotional Intelligence & Leadership © Steve Whiteford 2014 It’s curious that Authenticity is not identified as a component in any of the major EI assessments. But we can recognize it as an integral, and dynamic characteristic of Emotional Intelligence and resonant, powerful leadership. (Of-course so have others.) I would…