OR – Why I believe the study of Emotional intelligence may be especially important for Introverted Feeling Types © Steve Whiteford 2023 The first time I took the MBTI I self-typed as ENTJ. It wasn’t a truly certified presentation, but a thumbnail version of borrowed materials used in an otherwise excellent Conflict Management workshop. At…
© Steve Whiteford 2023Many people question the value of assessments, and there are many reasons why. Here are a few:
Communication begins with a cry in infancy. It’s a skillful way to meet our needs and get what we want. It’s interesting to consider that most of our communication (I’m resisting an unresearched percentage here) is based on the same motivation. Give it a thought. You might become altruistic and counter with, “But I want…
© Steve Whiteford 2022 Emotional Intelligence (EI) should be a very familiar topic for HR Professionals. Some say the science of EI was cited as early as the 1920s, but Daniel Goleman’s book, Emotional Intelligence brought it into popular culture in 1995 when he published his groundbreaking book by the same title. I was in…
©Steve Whiteford 2023 The “Mood Meter” originated from the work of James A. Russell and his Circumplex model of “Affect” which mapped the interplay of Valence (pleasure/displeasure) and Arousal (intensity/alertness). Versions associated with Emotional Intelligence were popularized by Caruso and Salovey, and Mark Bracket at Yale University. These represent the same factors with blocks of…
©Steve Whiteford 2023 Emotional Intelligence is a popular science that is useful for Leadership Development, Communication in business, and Employee Relations. I’ve taught it from the traits model and the skills strategy which combine very well and deliver strong results. The greatest challenge in promoting self-awareness and the skills of emotional intelligence is that our…
© Steve Whiteford 2021 Recently when I was teaching my Emotional Intelligence workshop to a Covid-exhausted non-profit healthcare team, they identified Emotional Labor as a strong concern. It’s easy to understand why. The caregivers in this group were especially attuned to the need to stay positive for patients and their teams. And they often needed to deliver…
© Steve Whiteford 2021 One of the trickiest emotions that is sure to keep you stuck and crash your efforts to effectively manage your limiting feelings and thoughts is based in self-judgment or self-pity. Scientists call this a Meta-Emotion (an emotion about an emotion.) Mindfulness masters call it “Second Suffering.” It’s when you’re angry, embarrassed,…
© Steve Whiteford 2021 “Acceptance” can be a difficult concept. It comes up in spiritual study a lot, and though not always directly presented in Emotional Intelligence, it is essential to the skill. It seems to imply passivity and compliance. “So I’m not supposed to have a response or take action when I don’t like…
© Steve Whiteford 2021 Learning Emotional Self-Awareness and being mindful of feelings and thoughts can present a “chicken or the egg” dilemma. Which will be my first cure. the thought or the feeling? There may be some very precise neuroscience I’ve not read, but from personal experience, I’m moved to say it really doesn’t matter….